Incredibly sheltered as a Christian child, Alice’s parents didn’t talk about sex, let alone pornography. They believed she didn’t need to know about sex until after she was married, and any questions which related to the topic were quickly shut down. She first viewed porn and began obsessively sexually acting out when she was twelve. She returned to it when she was eighteen and it was a messy five years to find real freedom from her addiction. “Instead of isolating myself in a digital world of sex, these days I spend my time writing blogs and speaking about women’s struggles with pornography, masturbation and sex. I share my testimony and seek to support other women in recovery. It’s incredibly healing to do this and a great blessing and sign of how far God has brought me.”
Phil is an entrepreneur, Christian blogger, writer, preacher, evangelist and international mission senior executive. Before she became a Christian (in her 40s) she used to own a sex toys business… and then wondered if it was suitable once she’d met Jesus! Her pastor said, “I recommend them in all my pre-marriage courses,” but what Phil discovered was not all Christians were so open talking about sexuality and intimate relations. So the seed of the Ministry of Sex was planted.
Four years on, asking the same pastor a forthright question about her and her husband’s sexual relations, he spluttered and said, “You can’t ask me that, you’re a woman..and I’m a man.” What?!
And so the Ministry of Sex seed flowered: to be the place where people could ask such questions – and more!
Passionate about preventing domestic and intimate partner violence, Phil believes open, engaging dialogue about sex is part of God’s beautiful design.
Megan Powell Du Toit